A mom writes in asking for advice. She and her husband have three kids, but this mom would like to have one more. Her husband feels that their family is complete as is, but this mom doesn’t feel ready to be done having kids. She would like to be a family of six. She wonders if there’s a way to talk her husband into having a fourth or if she has to accept that he won’t change his mind.
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A member of the community asks:
“What to do if you want more kids but your husband doesn’t? I want one more kid — we have three already — but my husband does not. He feels like our family is complete. I don’t!
I don’t want to be done having kids! Is there a way to talk my husband into having more kids? Can I get him to change his mind? Or do I just have to accept the fact that we may never have another kid?“
– Mamas Uncut Community Member
Community Advice for This Mom Who Wants More Kids But Her Husband Doesn’t
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
Advice Summary
Most commenters advised this mom not to pressure her husband into having another child. They pointed out that you can’t force someone to do something they don’t want to do and that there may be many practical reasons that the OP’s husband doesn’t want another child. For instance, maybe he’s worried about finances, or doesn’t feel he emotionally can support a fourth child.
Other commenters felt differently, advising OP to continue talking with her husband about it and keeping open communication. Perhaps in time he’ll change his mind.
Overall, the sentiment was pretty heavily weighted in the “leave him alone” camp. One commenter had a great suggestion for the OP about seeking out therapy if she finds that her husband’s refusal is leading to some feelings of resentment. We hope that the OP and her husband are able to work it out and come to a decision that makes both of them happy.
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