A woman writes in asking for advice about her friend. She says her friend is “proudly” dating a taken man, and this woman is confused about whether she should say something. She feels bad for the woman who doesn’t know she is being cheated on and wants to know if she should say something to her, even though it would effectively end her friendship with the woman who is dating the taken man. Should she say something or mind her own business?
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A member of the community asks:
“My friend is seeing someone who is taken: Should I say something or mind my business?
Needing advice. What would you do if you knew your friend was messing with a man that’s taken? Proudly, I might add. Should I just mind my business? I feel for the girl who doesn’t know she’s being cheated on. Also kinda feel obligated to tell this girl what’s going on even though my friend will find out exactly who told her and stop speaking to me. Thanks in advance for any feedback!”
– Mamas Uncut Community Member
Community Advice for This Woman Who Wants to Know if She Should Confront Her Friend Who Is Dating a Taken Man
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Advice Summary
The community offered this woman in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“‘All the people saying “stand by your friend…’ Yeah because people want a friend’s that proudly mess around with other females’ boyfriends. I’d be telling her and dropping your friend!”
“PLEASE tell her. I just went through this exact thing and was so thankful the friend told me. Try to get proof to send to her if you can. If she reacts badly, that’s on her. At least you know that you have a clear conscience and tried. I would also highly consider dropping that ‘friend.’ She’s trash.”
“Would you want someone to tell you if it was you being cheated on?? I would! I see some comments accusing you of not being a real friend if you tell, but to me, it makes you a good and honest person and I wouldn’t be this girl’s friend anymore anyway! She’s a DISGUSTING person to KNOWINGLY and PROUDLY be with someone who is taken! These people accusing you of not being a friend have their priorities messed up.”
“Tell the girl. No one deserves to be treated that way. Get a new friend who has respect for other women and decent human morals.”
“Mind my own business. My friends talk to me and open up to me because that’s what friends do. Not run behind there back telling people their dark secrets.”
“If you are absolutely positive of everything… tell her… but you need proof to back it up. And who needs a friend that doesn’t get the ‘girl code’?… You never know, it might be your man next.”
“I personally would tell the girl and drop the friend. People who can sit there and see someone that they know is taken makes me sick. You don’t do that to people.”
“Wow those saying friendship is worth saving is pretty sad. I wouldn’t ever want to be friends with someone who sleeps and is in a relationship with a married man and proudly knows about it. That’s just wrong. Definitely tell her and don’t mind your business; this poor woman needs to know.”
“Been In this predicament before. I told the wife, lost the ‘friend’ but gained the wife as a friend and we’re better friends than the other friendship I had was.”
“I found out a friend of mine was cheating on her man. Not only that, but she was also using me as an alibi to her man without me knowing. When I became aware of it all, I confronted her and told her how I felt about the situation. She said she was going to continue doing what she was doing but wouldn’t use me as an alibi anymore…
… I tried to be friends with her after that but I just couldn’t look at her the same way. What she was doing didn’t fall in line with my own morals and values. Ultimately I told her I just couldn’t be friends with her anymore because she was okay with what she was doing with no remorse for anyone else involved. Plus I’d never be able to trust her around any man I dated knowing she cheated on her own.”
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