A mom writes in asking for advice about breastfeeding. She says that she recently had her third child. Unfortunately, she has not been producing enough milk to continue breastfeeding exclusively. Her husband, however, is pressuring her to continue breastfeeding without the aid of formula. This mom wants to know how she can convince her husband to change his tune so that she can do what’s best for the baby.
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A member of the community asks:
“My husband thinks I should keep breastfeeding: Advice?
I just had my second son (third baby) last month and I was not producing enough milk to keep breastfeeding! However, my husband says I need to keep breastfeeding all the time no formula! How do I get him to agree with me that it’s for the best since I am not producing enough milk?”
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Community Advice for This Mom Whose Husband Is Pressuring Her to Exclusively Breastfeed Despite Her Milk Supply Issues
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
Advice Summary
The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“Tell him to stay in his lane. If you aren’t making enough milk for your baby, then your baby is going hungry without formula. Does he want your baby to starve to death? It’s YOUR decision. Your baby needs to be fed! Whether that’s from your boob or with formula, it doesn’t matter. Not his decision to make! He has NO say in whether you breastfeed or not.”
“NOT HIS BOOBS, NOT HIS CHOICE. You can stop breastfeeding for WHATEVER THE HELL YOU WANT. You don’t need anyone’s permission for that. Your body has already been through enough. We’re not in the 1950s. If you’re still wanting to breastfeed but aren’t producing enough, speak to a lactation specialist who should give you good tips to help produce more milk. I’ve heard the milk cookies are good.”
“Tell him until he can breastfeed baby, maybe he should stop pushing and do some research….. what he is doing can really mess with your head.”
“Tell him that if he wants your son to continue being breastfed, then he should start lactating to help out since you aren’t producing enough.”
“If the mom is not producing milk, why continue to try to feed if it’s hard for the mother? The dad needs to understand. Obviously he can’t breastfeed so he has no idea what it takes!”
“Your body, your decision. Formula, breast, or donated milk, they are all great, but I think the best option is if baby is happy and full then that’s what’s best. I think your husband needs to understand that sometimes women just can’t produce enough milk and it’s nothing you’re doing wrong!”
“This was the one thing I didn’t give my child’s father the option to make a decision. It’s my body and if I don’t want to breastfeed I won’t. He didn’t agree and I didn’t care. I formula fed and I don’t regret it. This is a decision for you to make, not him. All other things of course are 50/50 but not this.”
“Make sure you are in fact not producing enough. A lot of friends I know assume they arent when they just need to nurse more frequently. Pumping tends to slow production when nursing but latching often helps, even when you think your not making enough milk. Most of the time the supply comes in fine when in demand. In the end, it’s totally your choice but just some friendly advice! Rule of thumb, if baby is gaining normal weight then you’re producing just fine!”
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