A mom writes in asking for advice about co-sleeping. She says she and her wife have always kept their one-year-old son in his crib and have not had any issues. However, she would ideally like to move to co-sleeping. Unfortunately, it has not gone so well when she’s tried. She says her son thinks it’s “time to party and play” when she brings him into bed. What can this mom do to make co-sleeping work for her and her family?
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A member of the community asks:
“How can we co-sleep with our son?”
“My wife and I have always had our one-year-old son in his crib with no issues. We’d really like to try to co-sleep with him, but every time we try he can never settle down. He thinks it’s time to party and play. Any advice on how to manage that or try to transfer him to our bed? Please no hate comments. Thanks.”
– Mamas Uncut Community Member
Community Advice for This Mom Who Wants to Try Co-Sleeping with Her Son
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Advice Summary
The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“Why would you mess up a good thing???”
“Why on earth would you want to disrupt his sleep? I can’t even imagine why, when he’s sleeping on his own just fine, you would want to change his routine. What’s your motivation?”
“Why would you want that? It’s awful trying to break that habit. You should thank your lucky stars that he doesn’t want to co-sleep.”
“I have the hardest time trying to comprehend why parents want to cosleep by choice. Bedtime is about the ONLY time we have alone, to ourselves to talk privately or want to be intimate. I look forward to that time.”
“Leave him in the crib. Don’t try and fix what is not broken.”
“Omg please don’t!! I am co-sleeping with my now 7-year-old daughter. I wish I would have NEVER started this. I can not get her out of my bed for nothing and it’s terrible. I need my bed back.”
“Why in the world would you want to do that? I’m stunned. He won’t settle down because he’s used to his bed. When he’s old enough he will want to sleep with you trust me. My 5-year-old always slept in his own bed but is now trying to pull sleeping with us every night all of a sudden.”
“When my son was about that age we would get into the habit of hardcore playing every night, tickling him light roughhousing and just wearing him out! He is also a HUGE cuddle bug and loved snuggling up with me and usually is asleep within 30 minutes. Mine is 4 now. And I started co-sleeping when he was about a week old. I’m super excited for you guys to start! And it’s something to be proud of that you guys waiting till he was older!”
“Each to their own but if he’s one and happily sleeping alone in his crib there’s no need to disrupt that. Don’t break his routine if he’s happy in his crib leave him be. It’s not just up to you he’s clearly happy where he is.”
“I wouldn’t listen to the people who are telling you not to co-sleep. It’s your child and your choice. My kids co-sleep and I don’t mind it one bit! And Jesus, the kids aren’t gonna be small forever, I’d make the most of it! Some people act like it’s the worst thing you can do, to cuddle your kids at night. Some people enjoy it, and if it makes you happy, go for it.”
“I would try a bedtime routine and it may take a little while for him to settle down because he’s so excited to be with Mommy and Daddy. Ignore the people who say your little ones will stay in your bed forever they’re only little for a little while.”
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