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My 8-Month-Old Baby Still Wakes Up Three Times a Night and I'm Struggling: Is This Normal?

My 8-Month-Old Baby Still Wakes Up Three Times a Night and I’m Struggling: Is This Normal?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her 8-month-old baby. She says her baby still wakes up three times a night, and the only thing that will get her back to sleep is breastfeeding/nursing. This mom says her daughter eats (solid food) at about 6 every night, is put down for sleep around 7:30, but wakes up three times a night and needs to nurse in order to fall back asleep. This mom is tempted to start the switch to formula to see if that helps change this behavior, but she doesn’t want to give up breastfeeding just yet, if possible.

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My 5-Year-Old's Behavior Has Gotten Wildly Out of Control — He Steals, Lies, and Hurts His Baby Brother: Advice?

My 5-Year-Old’s Behavior Has Gotten Wildly Out of Control — He Steals, Lies, and Hurts His Baby Brother: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her 5-year-old son’s bad behavior. She says things are so bad she basically cannot let her son out of her sight at all. He steals things like forks, tampons, and toilet paper, and recently he broke into her desk and took important papers, a letter opener, and money. She has also caught him on the baby monitor sneaking into his 1-year-old brother’s room and throwing things at the baby in his crib. What can this mom do?

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My Daughter Always Asks if I Love Her After She Gets in Trouble, and It Has Me Worried About My Parenting Choices: Advice?

My Daughter Always Asks if I Love Her After She Gets in Trouble, and It Has Me Worried About My Parenting Choices: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her 4-year-old daughter. She says her daughter will always ask her mom if she loves her after she gets in trouble. Whether she gets put in a time out or ignored or yelled at for bad behavior, her daughter always asks her mom if she loves her. This worries this mom, who thinks maybe something in her actions makes her daughter feel unloved in those moments.

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How Can I Explain to My 3-Year-Old That He Can't Be As Affectionate As He Is With Strangers?

How Can I Explain to My 3-Year-Old That He Can’t Be As Affectionate As He Is With Strangers?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her 3-year-old son, whom she says is overly affectionate with strangers. She says her son will hug and kiss strangers — friends of the mom’s who come over to visit, for example — and this behavior makes his mom uncomfortable. The strangers, she says, will usually laugh, which she feels encourages him to do it more. She wants to explain to him that it is not okay to kiss strangers. Any advice?

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My Two-Year-Old Toddler Holds His Breath for Long Periods When He's Upset: Is This Normal?

My Two-Year-Old Toddler Holds His Breath for Long Periods When He’s Upset: Is This Normal?

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A mom writes in asking about her two-year-old toddler, who she says has “breath holding spells” that have started to worry her. She says her son will hold his breath until his lips turn blue. It often happens after he gets hurt or is upset. It has not yet gotten to the point where her son has passed out, but her doctor warned that it could eventually happen. Is this normal behavior? Should she be worried? Do you have any advice for this concerned mama?

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How Do I Stop My Two-Year-Old Toddler from Hitting His Parents When Angry?

How Do I Stop My Two-Year-Old Toddler from Hitting His Parents When Angry?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her two-year-old toddler. She says her son has taken to hitting her (or someone else) when he’s angry, mad, and/or annoyed. This mom has tried to stop the behavior by telling him “no” when he hits, but that tends to make the hitting worse, and she says he even will hit himself. Any advice for this mom on how to get a toddler to stop hitting his parents or relatives?

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My Partner Thinks He's Always Right and Has a Bad Attitude: Should I Leave?

My Partner Thinks He’s Always Right and Has a Bad Attitude: Should I Leave?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her partner. She says that her partner always thinks he is right and has a bad attitude. He thinks his opinion on everything — from raising their daughter to finances — is the right one and refuses to listen to hers. He nags, he curses at her. This mom is at the point where she wants to take her daughter and leave, but she says she has nowhere to go.

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I Struggle Deeply with Mom Guilt Whenever I Leave My Baby with Others: Advice?

I Struggle Deeply with Mom Guilt Whenever I Leave My Baby with Others: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about dealing with mom guilt. She says that her 5-month-old daughter has basically been by her side all day, every day since birth. This mom feels guilty leaving her baby with others, including family members. She is worried that this attachment is bad for her baby, who has become fussy the few times she’s let family care for her. And then she feels more guilt at the idea of leaving a fussy baby with a loved one. She’s looking for advice about how to get used to letting her daughter be in others’ care and managing her emotions and mental health in the process.

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My 10-Month-Old Won't Hold His Bottle — or Really Bring Anything to His Mouth: Should I Be Concerned?

My 10-Month-Old Won’t Hold His Bottle — or Really Bring Anything to His Mouth: Should I Be Concerned?

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A first-time mom writes in asking for advice about her 10-month-old baby. She says her son won’t hold his bottle or sippy cup himself, won’t bring food to his mouth, or even put his pacifier in his mouth. This mom is concerned that something may be wrong and wants to know if this behavior is normal.

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My Two-Year-Old Has Refused to Eat Solid Foods for the Last Six Months: Advice?

My Two-Year-Old Has Refused to Eat Solid Foods for the Last Six Months: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her two-year-old. She says her toddler, who once ate “literally anything,” has refused to eat solid foods for the last six months. All he wants is milk, juice, and sometimes oranges. All day, every day. This mom has tried some old standby tricks, but now she’s turning to the community for further advice.

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The Best Tips for Potty Training Boys: Advice?

The Best Tips for Potty Training Boys: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about potty training boys. She says her 1-year-old son has shown a lot of interest in the potty, but she can’t get him to actually use it. He hates having a dirty diaper, often sits on the potty “like mommy,” but ultimately he does not complete the act. Though this mom is not in a rush to potty train her son, given his interest, she is wondering what it might look like to start the process. Any advice?

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How Do I Know If It Is the Right Time for Me to Start Dating Again?

How Do I Know If It Is the Right Time for Me to Start Dating Again?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about when she might start dating again. This single mom, who has a 13-month-old baby, hasn’t dated anyone since she was six months pregnant. She says her last relationship was bad, but she has recently started feeling open to the idea of letting someone new into her (and her baby’s) life. She asks the community for advice about when people in similar situations knew they were ready to date, the best ways to meet potential partners, and more.

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My Passive-Aggressive Mother-in-Law Overrules My Parenting Choices, and My Partner Doesn't Stand Up for Me: Advice?

My Passive-Aggressive Mother-in-Law Overrules My Parenting Choices, and My Partner Doesn’t Stand Up for Me: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law (MIL). She says that she, her son, and her boyfriend live with her boyfriend’s mom (her MIL). The MIL constantly oversteps her boundaries and butts in on parenting matters that ultimately aren’t her business. She leaves passive-aggressive notes for the mom to find. She overrules this mom’s desires for her child (including for things like vaccines and food.) She also says that her boyfriend never stands up for her against his mom. Unfortunately, this mom is not in a place to move out with her family just yet, so how can she cope with her MIL in the meantime?

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Is It Safe to Lift Weights While Pregnant?

Is It Safe to Lift Weights While Pregnant?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about weight lifting while pregnant. This mom-to-be says that she recently found out she was pregnant after just starting a weight lifting routine. She intends to check with her doctor, but she is wondering if any other moms have tips or advice when it comes to lifting weights while pregnant.

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I'm Worried My Diet Is Affecting My Breastmilk: Should I Supplement Breastfeeding with Formula?

I’m Worried My Diet Is Affecting My Breastmilk: Should I Supplement Breastfeeding with Formula?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about breastfeeding. She says her 5-week-old baby, who has been breastfed since birth, recently started getting severe stomach pains and gas and acts as if he’s still hungry immediately after a feeding. Her supply is not an issue, but she is wondering if maybe her diet is affecting things. She is concerned her baby is not getting the proper nutrients to need and is wondering if she should supplement with formula.

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I'm 15 Weeks Pregnant and Have No Support System: Advice?

I’m 15 Weeks Pregnant and Have No Support System: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about finding support during her pregnancy. She says she is 15 weeks pregnant, and though she is with the father of the child, he is currently injured and unable to help with many of the things she needs help with. She has health concerns as well, along with housing and financial issues. What can she do? Who can she turn to?

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My Kids Have No Grandparents, and It Makes Our Lives So Much Harder: Advice?

My Kids Have No Grandparents, and It Makes Our Lives So Much Harder: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her struggle with the fact that her children have no grandparents. She says that all of her kids’ grandparents are deceased, except for her own mom who has mental health and addiction issues and who is not involved much in their lives. This mom is struggling, feeling like she lacks the “village” she desires to help make her family complete. She turns to other moms in the community, asking if anyone else has experienced similar or has any advice.

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My Daughter Wakes Up Almost Every Night, Screaming from Nightmares: Advice?

My Daughter Wakes Up Almost Every Night, Screaming from Nightmares: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about managing her two-year-old daughter’s nightmares. She says that, since birth, her daughter has woken up between 1 and 4 a.m., often screaming. Her daughter’s doctor approved the use of melatonin and says it is likely due to nightmares, but this mom is wondering if there is anything she can do.

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My Toddler Has Become a Terror, and I'm at My Wit's End: Advice?

My Toddler Has Become a Terror, and I’m at My Wit’s End: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her toddler, whom she describes as “a terror.” This single mom says that her 3-year-old refuses to listen, torments the family pets, says bad words, and has been very mean. She feels like she has tried everything and is out of ideas, so she has turned to the Mamas Uncut community of moms for help.

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Should I Leave My Partner Before Having Our Second Baby or Try to Stick It Out?

Should I Leave My Partner Before Having Our Second Baby or Try to Stick It Out?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her relationship with the father of her children. She is due to deliver their second child soon, but this mom may be done with the relationship. She says her partner is no help with their first child, does nothing around the house, and can be verbally abusive. This mom wants to know if it would be best to end the relationship before the baby comes or let the baby come… and see if things get better.

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Should I Be Worried About Upping My Antidepressant/Anti-Anxiety Medication Dosage While Pregnant?

Should I Be Worried About Upping My Antidepressant/Anti-Anxiety Medication Dosage While Pregnant?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about taking an antidepressant/anti-anxiety medication while pregnant. This mom was recently taking Lexapro but switched to Zoloft, which she says is considered safer during pregnancy. She says that the initial dosage her doctor prescribed (100mg) did not yield results, so the doctor upped the dosage to 200mg. This mom is “just looking for reassurance” from others that may have taken such drugs while pregnant and is looking for advice/feedback from those who’ve had a similar experience.

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My Kids' Grandmother Is Not Social Distancing and Works in a High-Risk Environment But Still Wants to See Her Grandkids: Advice?

My Kids’ Grandmother Is Not Social Distancing and Works in a High-Risk Environment But Still Wants to See Her Grandkids: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her kids’ grandmother. Their grandmother (on their father’s side) is not, according to this mom, practicing social distancing. Additionally, she works in a nursing home, placing her in an incredibly high-risk position. However, the grandmother still constantly asks to see her grandkids. What should this mom do?

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Does Anyone Have Advice on Getting Pregnant After Multiple Miscarriages?

Does Anyone Have Advice on Getting Pregnant After Multiple Miscarriages?

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A woman writes in asking for advice about getting pregnant after experiencing several miscarriages. This woman recently suffered her third miscarriage, and though she is still processing the trauma, she is also ready to try again. She turns to the community for advice, asking specifically if other women who have experienced a similar difficult pregnancy journey have any tips or would be willing to share what they did differently when they were eventually able to carry to term.

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