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My Toddler Has Started Mimicking My Cursing: How Can I Fix This?

July 3, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her two-and-a-half-year-old toddler daughter. She says her daughter has recently started cursing and using swear words (the f-word and the s-word, specifically) when she drops something or is told “no.” This mom admits that her daughter almost definitely learned the language from her, as she uses those words sometimes herself. But how does she put an end to this behavior and retrain her daughter not to use those words?

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My 15-Year-Old Son Just Told Me He’s Dating an 18-Year-Old and I Don’t Know How to Feel

July 3, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her teenage son. She says her son, 15, recently revealed to her that he is dating an almost-18-year-old girl. This mom is potentially concerned about the age difference while also feeling “happy” that her son felt comfortable enough to tell her. She feels like she should at least meet this girl, but she is otherwise looking for advice about how to handle the situation.

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My Husband and I Cannot Compromise on a Baby Name: Please Help!

July 2, 2020 / Advice, Baby Names, Parenting, Pregnancy, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about a baby name. She says her husband is dead-set on naming their son in the family tradition, but this mom is not a fan. She agreed to do it a long time ago, but now she is worried she may actually have to go with it if they end up having a boy. She thinks this name is confusing and would rather choose a new name that they’re both okay with, but he seems pretty firmly set on the name if their baby is, in fact, a boy. Should she push for more of a compromise or let him have his way?

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My 11-Year-Old Doesn’t Want to Visit Her Dad Because of COVID-19 Fears, But He Is Heavily Guilt-Tripping Her: Advice?

July 2, 2020 / Advice, Parenting, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her 11-year-old daughter. She shares custody of her daughter with her ex. However, her daughter has not wanted to visit and stay with her father (and his wife), mostly because of anxiety over COVID-19 and also because she has a new baby sister at her mom’s right now. This mom says her daughter’s father will call and guilt-trip her about not coming to the point where it upsets the daughter and makes her cry. What can this mom do?

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My 6-Year-Old Walked In on My Husband and Me Making Sweet, Sweet Love: What Should I Say to Her?

July 2, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice after her 6-year-old daughter walked in on her and her husband while they were, you know… doing it. She says her daughter definitely noticed something was going on, asked her parents to be quiet, and made a remark about their “weird” behavior. This mom knows she has to

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My Husband and I Disagree About Whether It’s Appropriate to Gift His Sister’s 1-Year-Old Son Expensive Gucci Shoes: Advice?

July 2, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about giving an expensive gift to a relative. This mom says she wants to gift Gucci shoes to her husband’s sister’s son, who is just one-year-old. Her husband, however, thinks it is an inappropriate gift because his sister is going through an expensive divorce and could not afford to give those shoes herself. Should she give the gift of Gucci or not?

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My Mother-in-Law Expects to Be Waited Upon Hand-and-Foot Whenever She Enters My House: Advice?

July 1, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says her MIL expects to be waited upon whenever she is in her home. She sits back, watches her daughter-in-law do everything — cooking, cleaning up, etc. — and in general makes no effort to help. This mom is fed up and feeling like she’d rather not have her MIL over at all if this is how she’s going to act. Read advice for her below.

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Should This Mom Have to Buy Car Seats for Her Children’s Grandparents’ Car?

July 1, 2020 / Advice, Extended Family, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about car seats. She is wondering if she should be required to buy additional car seats for her parents, her children’s grandparents, who watch the children sometimes. Is this mom obligated to buy those additional car seats herself, or should her parents buy their own car seats for their grandkids?

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My Husband and I Disagree About How Many Toys We Should Buy Our Kid: Advice?

July 1, 2020 / Advice, Product Recommendations / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about buying toys for her daughter. She says that she and her husband disagree about whether they should buy more toys for their 5-year-old. Her husband wants to buy more toys for her, while this mom worries buying more would only spoil her. She says her daughter has a doll, a dollhouse, and a ring toss game for outside. Should they buy more?

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My 13-Year-Old Daughter Came Out as Bisexual: How Can I Support Her Even Though It’s Against My Religion?

July 1, 2020 / Advice, Parenting / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her teenage daughter. She says her 13-year-old came out as bisexual. This mom says she is struggling to balance accepting her daughter’s bisexuality and her religious views. She wants to support her daughter but is having a hard time doing so due to her religion. How can she support her daughter, ideally while also upholding her own beliefs?

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Moms: What Is the Perfect Age Gap to Have Amongst Your Children?

June 26, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about having multiple children. She wants to hear from other moms about what they feel is the perfect age gap to have between children. She has a four-month-old daughter and wants more children. On her current trajectory, though, she is not planning to have another until her daughter is almost four. Is that too long?

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As a White Mom, How Can I Have a Conversation with My White Kids About Race That Even a 3-Year-Old Will Understand?

June 26, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about discussing race with her children. This mom, who is white and who says most of her family and friend group are white and/or Hispanic, says her 3-year-old recently asked a question about race. She feels like she gave a bad answer at the time, and given the ongoing Black Lives Matter protests and discussions about systematic racism, this mom wants to know how she can effectively communicate sensitive issues to her young children.

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My Daughter’s Father Is About to Get Out of Prison: Should I Let Him Be Part of Her Life?

June 26, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her ex, the father of her two-year-old daughter. She says her daughter’s father has had very little involvement in her life due to being in and out of prison. Though this mom has no interest in any kind of meaningful relationship with her ex — and refuses to let him live with her again — she is conflicted about to what degree, if any, she should let him into their daughter’s life, given his history. Other moms share their advice for her below.

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I’m a Stay-at-Home Mom with Bipolar Manic Depressive Disorder and My Husband Is Pressuring Me to Start Working: Advice?

June 26, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband pressuring her to return to work. This mom has long suffered from Bipolar Manic Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. In previous jobs, she has needed to do avoid traditional retail positions and focus on work where she did not need to communicate with other humans much, due to her mental health. Her husband, however, spends a lot of money and is pressuring her to return to work, despite her current role as a stay-at-home mom. What should she do?

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I am a White Mother Raising a Mixed Son in an Otherwise All-White Family: Where Should I Begin?

I am a White Mom Raising a Mixed Son in an Otherwise All-White Family: Where Should I Begin?

June 25, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about raising her mixed-race son as protests throughout the world continue. This white mother-of-three has an 11-year-old son from a previous relationship. Her son’s father is Black, and therefore her son is half-Black and half-white. This mom wants to know what she should be doing for her son: What conversations should she be having with him? How should she be having them? Where should she start?

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I’m Terrified of Having a Second C-Section: Advice?

June 25, 2020 / Advice, Giving Birth, Pregnancy / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about having a second C-section. She says she had an emergency C-section during her first delivery, which likely caused some trauma. Now that she is pregnant again, she is planning to have a scheduled C-section, but she is terrified. She says her anxiety is getting out of control, and she would like to hear from other moms who have been through this about their positive experiences in having a second, planned C-section.

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My Ex Wants to Take Our Son With Him Across the Country to Meet a Woman He’s Never Even Met in Person: Advice?

June 25, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her ex. She says that her ex has requested to take their son on a cross-country trip to meet a woman whom the ex has not met in person. This mom has tried to explain her concerns about this situation to her ex, but he does not seem to care. She is worried that if she flat-out tells him no, he will find ways to cause problems for her. Any advice for this mom?

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I’m Conflicted About Having a Second Child: What Are the Pros and Cons?

June 25, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about whether or not she should have a second child. This mom-of-one says “life is crazy enough with one” child, and she worries that adding another into the mix will only make life harder. However, she worries that one day she will look back and wish she had a second, only it will be too late to do it by then. She asks moms with multiples what the pros and cons are of having more than one child.

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My Job Offers No Maternity Leave, and Short-Term Disability Isn’t an Option for Me: Advice?

June 24, 2020 / Advice, Pregnancy / Anonymous Community Member

A mom-to-be writes in asking for advice about maternity leave. She says she and her boyfriend are expecting their first child in December. Her job does not offer paid maternity leave. She looked into adding short-term disability into her benefits package at work, but due to the circumstances, her pregnancy is considered a “pre-existing condition” and would not be covered. Looking into private insurance has not yielded any good options either. What can this mom-to-be do?

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My 9-Month-Old Baby Hasn’t Been Able to Poop in 5 Days: Advice?

June 24, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her infant daughter. She says her 9-month-old baby hasn’t pooped in five days. “She pushes and cries” but nothing happens. This mom is waiting to get in at her pediatrician’s office, but in the meantime, she is wondering if any moms have advice for her. She’s tried all of the best recommendations she could find already, but nothing seems to work.

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I’m a Single Mom Who Is Ready to Buy Her First House: How Should I Start This Process?

June 24, 2020 / Advice, Parenting / Anonymous Community Member

A single mom writes in asking for advice about how to buy her first house. This 23-year-old mom has a son and currently lives with her mom and stepdad. She receives no financial support from her son’s party father, nor does she want financial support from him. She wants to buy a house on her own for her and her son. But she doesn’t know where to start. Any advice for this single mom and first-time homebuyer?

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My Partner Cheated on Me But Now Says He Wants to ‘Work on It’: Advice?

June 24, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her partner. She has been with her partner for 8 years, and they have 3 children together. Earlier this year, her partner had a one-night stand and told her about it the following day. At the time, he told her that he loved her but was no longer “in love” with her. He then changed his tune and told her he wants to work on saving their relationship. This mom is conflicted about what to do.

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My Husband Invited People Over Without Asking Me, Ruining Plans with My Daughter: Am I Wrong to Be Upset?

June 22, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband, who, she says, invited people over to the house without asking her first. This was upsetting for this mom because she’d been looking forward to spending some one-on-one time with their daughter, which could not happen due to the surprise guests. Is this mom wrong for feeling upset?

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I’m Scared My Child’s Father May Try to Take Custody from Me: Advice?

June 22, 2020 / Advice, Divorce / Separations, Parenting, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about custody. She says the father of her child, who is now five, has never been involved in the child’s life because she did not want him to be. She is now at a point where she is slowly letting her child’s father into their lives, but she is worried that he may try to take custody. Could he do that? Any. advice for her?

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I Recently Gave Birth and Now Have Terrible Hemorrhoids: How Can I Make Them Go Away?

June 22, 2020 / Advice, Women's Health / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about getting rid of hemorrhoids. She says she gave birth less than two months ago at the end of April. Since then, she’s had hemorrhoids. She’s tried using medicine prescribed by her doctor, but it has not helped. They are interfering with her love life and comfort overall: How can she make them go away?

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