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Should We Just Skip Preschool Due to COVID-19 and the Ongoing Pandemic?

July 17, 2020 / Advice, Parenting / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about preschool. This mom is wondering if she should just skip sending her 4-year-old to preschool as planned due to COVID-19 and the ongoing novel coronavirus pandemic. In addition to her preschool-age child, she also has a 1-year-old at home and another on the way. Like many moms, she is flying a bit blind in this new world. Any advice for her?

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My Husband Didn’t Acknowledge Our Anniversary, and It Isn’t the First Time He’s Dropped the Ball: Advice?

July 17, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says she has been with her husband for six years and married for four. He has a history of not always planning something special for important dates and anniversaries. But recently, he came home on their fourth wedding anniversary and didn’t even acknowledge that it was their anniversary. This mom had expected to go out; instead, he said he was tired and fell asleep. This mom is heartbroken and angry. What should she do?

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My 18-Year-Old Daughter and Her Boyfriend Live With Me, But They Do Not Help with Anything and Have Made a Mess of My Life: Advice?

July 17, 2020 / Advice, Parenting, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her teenage daughter. She says her daughter, who is 18, moved in with her boyfriend. Neither her daughter nor the boyfriend help around the house or contribute financially, which has put a humungous strain on this mom. Additionally, having them in the house caused her own frustrated partner to move out in order to “save their relationship.” This mom and her daughter are now at odds. She reached a breaking point and told her daughter that her boyfriend must move out, which has caused further turmoil.

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My Elderly Neighbors Let Their Granddaughter Enter My Yard Every Day Without Permission: Advice?

July 16, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her neighbors. She says her neighbors, an elderly couple, care for their granddaughter, and they let their granddaughter wander into this mom’s back yard almost every day without permission. This mom is OK with it sometimes, but the granddaughter also causes some problems: She sometimes plays rough, she often leaves the gate open, and ultimately makes this mom feel like she has one more kid to look after. How can she approach her neighbors and discuss the issue productively?

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My Mom’s Dog Bit My Son, and She Refuses to Do Anything About It: Advice?

July 16, 2020 / Advice, Parenting / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about how to deal with her mom and her mom’s dog. She says that her mom’s dog recently bit her four-year-old son on the face. He needed to have stitches. This dog has been aggressive before, but her parents insist on keeping the dog and “reintroducing” him to this mom’s son, who is now terrified of the pet. Would this mom be wrong to cut ties until a change is made? What should she do to confront this situation?

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My Sister’s Baby Tested Positive for COVID-19: Advice?

July 16, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her sister’s baby. She says this baby, 6-months-old, recently tested positive for COVID-19, the disease caused by the novel Coronavirus. Despite taking a plethora of precautions, it happened, and this mom wants to know what, if anything, she can do to help her sister and her baby. Any advice for this family?

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Is It Normal for a Girl to Start Her Period at Just 8- or 9-Years-Old?

July 16, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her daughter starting her period. This mom says she took her daughter to the doctor for her 8-year checkup. During the examination, the doctor warned that girls are more commonly getting their periods at just 8 or 9 years old, which has this mom worried. She is concerned that her daughter will struggle with difficult periods, which would be especially hard at that age. She is also worried something may be wrong, based on some internet research she’s done. Any advice for this mom?

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I Want to Take My Son to Church, But My Husband Says I Can’t: Advice?

July 15, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about taking her son to church. She says she wants to take her son to church because he is “struggling with life and wants to go and see what it’s all about.” However, this mom’s husband has said she cannot take their son to church and is incredibly, incredibly adamant that she never does so. Should she take her son to church without her husband’s permission?

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I Worry My Fiancé Only Proposed to Me Because He Got Me Pregnant: Advice?

July 15, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her fiancé. She says she and her fiancé got together in 2018, and in 2019, he proposed. At the time he proposed, she was pregnant, and they didn’t set a date or make any solid wedding plans at that time. Now, more than a year later, no date has been set, no further plans have been made. She is starting to wonder if he only proposed because she was pregnant at the time. How can she know if this engagement is for real?

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I’m Scared to Give Birth During the Coronavirus Pandemic: Advice?

July 15, 2020 / Advice, Giving Birth, Parenting, Pregnancy / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about giving birth during the ongoing novel Coronavirus pandemic. This mom-to-be-says she has a C-section scheduled for November, and she is terrified. She is terrified that her husband will not be allowed to be in the delivery room with her and that she will be alone during the birth. She wants to hear from other moms who have given or are planning to give birth during the pandemic for advice and support.

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I’m Finally Leaving a Relationship That Has Mostly Been Unsatisfying, But Am I Doing the Right Thing?

July 15, 2020 / Advice, Parenting, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about leaving her relationship. She says she has been with her husband since she was 16. They have been together for nine years and have three children together. This mom says she has always felt like her husband has not paid her the kind of attention she desires, which led her to an emotional entanglement with a coworker. This has caused additional problems for the couple. After years of drama, hurt, and controlling and neglectful behavior on her husband’s part, this mom is finally ready to leave. But should she?

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My Mother-in-Law Thinks I’m Deliberately Keeping My Child Away From Her… And I Guess I Am, But Only Because She’s an Essential Worker and I’m Playing It Safe

July 10, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says her MIL “swears” this mom is deliberately keeping her 7-month-old away from her. And in a way, that is true, because this MIL is an essential worker, and this mom wants to keep her family safe during the ongoing novel coronavirus pandemic. Still, this mom is not deliberately trying to keep her child away, and she is not doing so to be rude or petty. How can she communicate this to her mother-in-law?

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Tips on Weaning a 2-Year-Old Off of Their Pacifier?

Tips on Weaning a 2-Year-Old Toddler Off of Their Pacifier?

July 10, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about pacifiers. She says her son, 2, is “absolutely hooked” on his pacifier. She wants to know if any other moms have advice about how she might consider beginning him to wean him off of using it. She adds that continued prolonged use for them is not an option, as his teeth are already beginning to misalign. So what say you, mamas? Any advice on pacifier weaning?

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My Mother-in-Law Very Clearly Favors My Youngest Child Because of Biological Relation: Advice?

July 10, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says that her mother-in-law favors her youngest child over her oldest. This mom suspects it is likely due to the fact that her youngest is her mother-in-law’s first “blood” (or biological) grandchild, as her older child is from a previous relationship. Still, it bothers this mom that her MIL so clearly favors one over the other. What should she do?

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My Son’s Father Wants to Take Our Son ‘for a Few Months’ Upon His Release from Jail, But I’m Uncomfortable with That: Advice?

July 10, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her child’s father. She says her son’s father is about to be released from jail and has requested that he take their son “for a few months” after he returns home. This mom is not comfortable sending her son to live with him for that long given his history, her son’s unfamiliarity with his father, and the fact that the father lives quite far away. How can she work to help father and son build a relationship she is actually comfortable with?

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My Child’s Grandparents Gave Her Cow’s Milk Even Though I Asked Them Not To: How Should I Handle This?

July 9, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her child’s grandparents who gave cow’s milk to her daughter, despite her telling them not to. This mom only gives her daughter water and almond milk, but her parents gave her daughter cow’s milk, which caused her to have diarrhea. How should this mom handle the situation with her parents?

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My Husband Is Pressuring Me to Exclusively Breastfeed Despite My Milk Supply Issues: Advice?

July 9, 2020 / Advice, Parenting, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about breastfeeding. She says that she recently had her third child. Unfortunately, she has not been producing enough milk to continue breastfeeding exclusively. Her husband, however, is pressuring her to continue breastfeeding without the aid of formula. This mom wants to know how she can convince her husband to change his tune so that she can do what’s best for the baby.

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This Mom Is Looking for Advice on Breastfeeding with Pierced Nipples

July 9, 2020 / Advice, Parenting / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about breastfeeding with pierced nipples. This mom says this is her second baby, but her first since she got her nipples pierced, and she is wondering if the community has any tips, tricks, or other advice for breastfeeding with such piercings. The community provides some valuable feedback below.

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What Is It Like Having Kids 10 Years Apart?

July 9, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about having kids 10 years apart. This mom says she recently learned that she is pregnant. Her daughter, she says, will be 10 by the time the new baby arrives, and she worries this will be a “rift for my daughter instead of a blessing.” So this mom turns to the community for advice: What is like having kids 10 years apart?

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Would It Be Wrong for Me to Tell My Sister-in-Law I Can’t Watch Her Kids Anymore?

July 8, 2020 / Advice, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about watching her sister-in-law’s kids. This mom-of-three (who is currently pregnant with her fourth) says that recently her sister-in-law asked her to watch her two daughters. This mom agreed and continued to help with her SIL’s kids over the last couple of months. Between the cost of feeding two additional children and scheduling issues, this mom is feeling stressed and is thinking she may not be able to watch her SIL’s kids anymore, but she doesn’t want to create drama. What should she do?

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I’m a New Mom, and I Feel Guilty About Having to Apply for WIC: Advice?

July 8, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about applying for WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) assistance. She says she is a new mom to a 4-year-old baby, and she needed to apply for WIC assistance in order to provide for herself and her infant. She feels guilty about having to do so and is turning to the community for advice.

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Would It Be Wise to Drop the Child Support Case Against My Ex Given the Circumstances?

July 7, 2020 / Advice, Parenting, Relationships / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about child support. She says her daughter’s father recently contacted her and asked her to drop the child support case pending against him due to personal issues on his end. His stimulus check was taken by the state, he currently does not have a valid driver’s license, and soon, she says, a warrant will be issued for his arrest. Given that she expects to receive nothing from him, should she drop the case? Or should she fight for what is rightfully her daughter’s?

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My 10-Year-Old Stepson Still Wets the Bed, and His Mom Refuses to Address the Issue: Advice?

July 7, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking advice about her 10-year-old stepson. She says that her stepson still wets the bed. He is large enough that they have to buy small adult Pull-ups for him to wear in bed. He has been to a doctor, but no helpful advice was given. This mom is frustrated because she feels like her stepson’s mom refuses to address the issue, and it is causing issues in her home when he is over. What should she do?

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My Friend Is Guilting Me Because I Can’t Attend Her Mom’s Burial Service Due to Childcare Issues: Is She Being Unreasonable or Am I Wrong?

July 3, 2020 / Advice / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about a situation with her friend. She says her friend’s mom recently passed, and this mom had planned to attend the burial service. However, all of her options for having someone look after her daughter while she planned to go fell through, and for a variety of reasons, this mom does not want to bring her daughter to the service. After telling her friend she couldn’t make it, her friend told her that she was pulling the “mom card” and that her behavior would not be forgotten. Is the friend overreacting? Or did this mom make a mistake?

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Is It True You Get Sicker When You’re Pregnant With a Boy?

July 3, 2020 / Advice, Pregnancy, Women's Health / Anonymous Community Member

A mom writes in asking for advice about her second pregnancy. She says she is pregnant and is much sicker this time than she was during her previous pregnancy (which produced a girl). She is wondering if the old wive’s tale that severe morning sickness early in pregnancy means you are having a boy is actually true. (She is only five weeks along and therefore does not know yet if it is a boy or a girl.)

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