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Featuring parenting and relationship questions (and answers!) from our community of real moms, this content features advice on a wide range of important topics. For the best advice from real moms, this is where you want to be.

I Hate the Idea of Having a Blended Family: Am I Alone?

I Hate the Idea of Having a Blended Family: Am I Alone?

/ Advice, Divorce / Separations, Relationships /

A mom writes in asking for advice about having a blended family. This mom, who is “in the middle of a very nasty divorce,” says she would rather be a single parent than “suffer” from a blended family. While she understands that her daughter will likely experience a blended family when her father eventually remarries, this mom doesn’t want to add any fuel to that particular fire. She thinks a blended family is “second best.” But is she perhaps blinded by the emotions of her divorce?

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How Can I Help My Daughter Understand the Dangers of Talking to Strangers Online?

How Can I Help My Daughter Understand the Dangers of Talking to Strangers Online?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her 9-year-old daughter. She says her daughter has been caught multiple times chatting online with strangers (via chatrooms within games). This mom says she’s tried many times to talk to her daughter, explain how dangerous that can be, and has made it clear that is not allowed. She’s deleted her daughter’s games and banned her from using the iPad until she can figure out a way to convince her daughter to stop chatting with strangers online.

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I Just Found Out My Husband Is Having an Affair, and Now I'm Very Conflicted About Whether I Should Allow Him Into the Delivery Room with Me: Advice?

I Just Found Out My Husband Cheated on Me, and Now I’m Very Conflicted About Whether I Should Allow Him Into the Delivery Room with Me: Advice?

/ Advice, Giving Birth, Parenting, Pregnancy, Relationships /

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says she recently found out her husband has been having an affair. Even more heartbreaking is that this woman and husband are due to have a baby in just about a month. After learning of her husband’s affair, this mom is feeling conflicted about allowing him to join her in the delivery room. On the one hand, she is heartbroken, and having him be there would be painful for her. On the other hand, she recognizes that she is giving birth to his child and that he should perhaps be there. What should she do?

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What Should My Fiancé's Children Call Me?

What Should My Fiancé’s Children Call Me?

/ Advice, Relationships /

A mom writes in asking for advice about what her fiancé’s children should call her. She says she and her fiancé share 6 kids (he has four from a previous relationship, and she has two). She says her kids call him DD, but she doesn’t know what his kids should call her. She doesn’t want it to be her first name, as that might be confusing to one of the younger children. And she respects the mother of her fiancé’s kids and therefore doesn’t want a name or nickname similar to “mom.” So, what should her fiancé’s kids call her?

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I'm the Only Person My Brother, Who Is an Alcoholic, Talks To, and I Want to Help Him: Advice?

I’m the Only Person My Brother, Who Is an Alcoholic, Talks To, and I Want to Help Him: Advice?

/ Advice, Relationships /

A mom writes in asking for advice about her brother. She says her older brother, who is 13 years older than she is, is an alcoholic. He has been in and out of rehab throughout his life but still struggles. He is currently living with their parents, which the OP describes as a “rough situation.” She wants to help him but is at a loss regarding how to do so. She specifies that she is really the only person he talks to, and she feels that responsibility.

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Any Advice on Getting a 2-Year-Old to Stop Crawling Out of Their Crib?

Any Advice on Getting a 2-Year-Old to Stop Climbing Out of Their Crib?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her 2-year-old toddler. She wants to know if any other moms in the Mamas Uncut community have tips on how to stop a 2-year-old from crawling out of his or her crib. Below, the community weighs in with advice and recommendations, most of which boil down to the fact it may be time for a toddler bed!

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I Didn't Breastfeed My First Child But Am Considering Doing It for My Second: What Is It Like? Does It Hurt?

I Didn’t Breastfeed My First Child But Am Considering Doing It for My Second: What Is It Like? Does It Hurt?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about breastfeeding. She says she did not breastfeed her first child due to personal preference. She is due to give birth to her second child this fall and is thinking she may want to give breastfeeding a try. The thing is, she is concerned and worried it may hurt. She asks the Mamas Uncut community what breastfeeding is like: Does it hurt? What is the first feeding like? The first month? Check out some of the community’s helpful first-time breastfeeding advice below.

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Is It Possible to Get Pregnant a Week After a Miscarriage?

Is It Possible to Get Pregnant a Week After a Miscarriage?

/ Advice, Getting Pregnant, Miscarriage, Pregnancy /

A mom writes in asking for advice about getting pregnant after a miscarriage. She says she suffered a miscarriage “about a week ago” when she was about 8 or 9 weeks along. She is wondering if it is possible to get pregnant again now, about a week after the miscarriage. She says she was told to wait to get pregnant again, but she wants to hear from the community of moms about how soon after a miscarriage you can get pregnant and whether anyone has been through a similar experience.

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How Can I Help My 7-Year-Old Daughter Cope with the Death of Our Beloved Family Dog?

How Can I Help My 7-Year-Old Daughter Cope with the Death of Our Beloved Family Dog?

/ Advice, Entertainment, Parenting /

A mom writes in asking for advice on how to help her 7-year-old daughter cope with the death of their family dog. This mom says her daughter has experienced an unfortunate amount of grief and loss in her life, and as a result, the family has always been honest about death. But the recent loss of their family dog, who had been her daughter’s “protector,” has become a great source of sadness. She says her daughter will randomly start bawling thinking about the dog. How can this mom help her young daughter process the grief?

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What Can I Feed a 9-Month-Old Baby Who Has No Teeth?

What Can I Feed a 9-Month-Old Baby Who Has No Teeth?

/ Advice, Food /

A mom writes in asking for advice about feeding her 9-month-old baby. She says her infant son has no teeth. What foods can she feed him given that? She adds that her son likes to feed himself but has not been so hot on the foods mom and dad have been giving him. She turns to the community for advice on which foods she should try to feed her baby.

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Is There a Healthy Way to Lose Weight While Pregnant?

Is There a Healthy Way to Lose Weight While Pregnant?

/ Advice, Pregnancy, Relationships /

A mom writes in asking for advice about losing weight while pregnant. This mom-to-be says she recently found out she is pregnant, and now she is turning to the community to ask for tips and advice from other moms about safe ways to lose weight while pregnant. She specifies that she wants to lose weight in a “healthy manner.” The community chimes in with some suggestions below.

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At What Age Is It Appropriate to Give a Child Gum?

At What Age Is It Appropriate to Give a Child Gum?

/ Advice, Food, Parenting /

A mom writes in asking for advice about giving gum to her child. She says her 4-year-old daughter has been begging to have gum, but this mom is worried that her daughter will either swallow it or get it stuck in her hair, which would then need to be cut. She also has concerns that giving gum to her 4-year-old will make her 3-year-old son want the same, and she would rather avoid that annoyance. So, what say you? At what age is it appropriate to give a child gum?

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What Are the Pros and Cons of Having Your Tubes Tied?

What Are the Pros and Cons of Having Your Tubes Tied?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about getting her tubes tied (tubal ligation). She says she and her partner are done having children. She knows that both her mom and her aunt have gotten their tubes tied, but otherwise, she doesn’t know much about the procedure or the pros and cons of having it done. She says she’d love to hear from women who have gotten it done about their experiences, both the good and the bad.

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I'm a Stay-at-Home-Mom with No Money of My Own: How Can I File for Divorce?

I’m a Stay-at-Home-Mom with No Money of My Own: How Can I File for Divorce?

/ Advice, Divorce / Separations, Relationships /

A mom writes in asking for advice about filing for divorce. She says she is about to start going through a divorce, and as a stay-at-home mom, she has no money or income to help her with this expensive legal matter. How can someone with no expendable income afford a lawyer, even if she needs one for something like a divorce? Below, the community weighs in with some advice for this mom-in-need.

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What Size Diapers Should I Stock Up On Ahead of the Arrival of My Baby?

What Size Diapers Should I Stock Up On Ahead of the Arrival of My Baby?

/ Advice, Product Recommendations /

A mom writes in asking for advice about diapers. She is 28-weeks pregnant and wants to know what size diapers she should stock up on for her newborn baby. She says that she is “measuring big,” and is therefore curious if maybe the better path would be to buy more diapers in a larger size. The community comes through with some very good diaper advice below.

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I Feel Guilty About Having a Baby So Soon After My First and Worry It Will Affect My Relationship With My Daughter: Advice?

I Feel Guilty About Having a Baby So Soon After My First and Worry It Will Affect My Relationship With My Daughter: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about dealing with mom guilt. She says she feels guilty about having a second baby so soon after her first. Her first child, a daughter, is her “best friend” and is only 20 months old. She is due to have her second in a month. She is worried the new baby will negatively affect her relationship with her daughter. Her second child was unplanned, she says, and she only wishes she had more time one-on-one with her daughter. Is it normal to feel this guilty?

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My Grandmother Doesn't Respect My Parenting Rules or Wishes: Advice?

My Grandmother Doesn’t Respect My Parenting Rules or Wishes: Advice?

/ Advice, Extended Family, Relationships /

A mom writes in asking for advice about her grandmother. She says her grandmother — her son’s great grandmother — refuses to respect her parenting rules. She cites a couple of examples, including a time she told her son he was not allowed to go in the pool at his great grandmother’s house, only to turn around and watch her grandmother let him go into the pool. She also says she has repeatedly asked her grandmother not to kiss her son on the face, but she frequently kisses him on the lips. This mom is fed up and is tempted to withhold her son until things change; is that wise?

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I Can't Decide Whether to Send My Son Back to Daycare or Not Given COVID-19: Advice?

I Can’t Decide Whether to Send My Son Back to Daycare or Not Given COVID-19: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about whether she should send her two-year-old back into daycare. She says she was due to send him back part-time after the arrival of her new baby, but due to COVID-19 and the ongoing pandemic, she is unsure if that is wise. She loves having her son home with her and the baby, but she recognizes that he is missing friends and interaction at school. What should she do?

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I'm Struggling with Teaching My Baby to Self-Soothe: Advice?

I’m Struggling with Teaching My Baby to Self-Soothe: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about teaching her baby to self-soothe. This mom says she has been told that she needs to stop running to her baby the moment he starts crying, to stop sleeping with him, and generally to let him be more independent. She struggles to try to do so and feels like she is neglecting her child. She asks the community what the negative effects of not teaching her baby to self-soothe could be, and what the hardest thing moms who did teach self-soothing had to teach themselves.

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I Took a Clearblue Pregnancy Test and It Was Positive, But Then I Took Three First Response Tests and They All Were Negative: Advice?

I Took a Clearblue Pregnancy Test and It Was Positive, But Then I Took Three First Response Tests and They All Were Negative: Advice?

/ Advice, Pregnancy /

A mom writes in asking for advice about pregnancy tests. She says she took a Clearblue brand pregnancy test, and it was positive, indicating that she is pregnant. She then took three First Response pregnancy tests, and all three results were negative. This mom is confused and wondering what she should do. Should she believe one brand of pregnancy test over the other?

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My Daughter's Daycare Wants Her Back in Pull-Ups: Advice?

My Daughter’s Daycare Wants Her Back in Pull-Ups: Advice?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about a request made by her daughter’s daycare. She said the daycare has requested her daughter be put back in Pull-Ups due to a recent string of accidents. This mom says her daughter is fully potty-trained and has no issues at home. She adds that her husband (and child’s father) is currently deployed and that she herself is currently pregnant, so she suspects the accidents at daycare are a result of these changes in her daughter’s life and that putting her back in Pull-Ups could actually make the problem worse. What should she do?

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I Need to Lose Weight, Per My Doctor's Orders: Any Advice on Methods That Actually Work?

I Need to Lose Weight, Per My Doctor’s Orders: Any Advice on Methods That Actually Work?

/ Advice, Lifestyle, Parenting, Women's Health /

A mom writes in asking for advice about losing weight. This mom says her doctor told her that she is overweight and needs to lose 50 lbs. She says she doesn’t even know where to start and hopes the community may have some advice on healthy, sustainable ways to lose weight and become healthier overall.

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Advice, Please: Has Anyone Gotten Pregnant After Having Their Tubes Tied?

Advice, Please: Has Anyone Gotten Pregnant After Having Their Tubes Tied?

/ Advice, Getting Pregnant, Pregnancy /

A mom writes in asking for advice about getting pregnant after tubal ligation. This mom says she had her tubes tied 17 years ago after her youngest was born. Recently, though, she realized her period was two weeks late, and after taking multiple pregnancy tests, she learned she is, in fact, now pregnant again. She turns to the community and asks if this has happened to any other moms who’ve had their tubes tied and whether anyone has any advice for her.

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My Husband Absolutely Does Not Want Another Kid, But I Think I Do: Advice?

My Husband Absolutely Does Not Want Another Kid, But I Think I Do: Advice?

/ Advice, Parenting, Relationships /

A mom writes in asking for advice about having another kid with her husband. She says she has about 9 months until she has her birth control removed, and at that time, she will need to make certain family planning decisions. She thinks she wants another child, although she is a little unsure about the timing. Her husband, however, is “adamant” that they not have another. When they discuss this, it usually erupts into an argument. How can she come to an agreement with her husband?

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