A mom writes in asking for advice about using the popular dating app Tinder. She says she has a 4-month old baby and is looking into getting back into dating. (She hasn’t been with the father of her child for about 10 months.) She wants to know if it would be “weird” for a single mom with an infant to use the app.
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A member of the community asks:
“Would it be weird if I went on Tinder to try to get back into dating when I have a 4-month-old? Her father and I haven’t been together since I was three months pregnant, and I’m not sure if men will find it weird/be turned off that I am on Tinder when I have a young baby. Thoughts?
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Community Advice for This Single Mom Who Wants to Know if It Would Be ‘Weird’ for Her to Use Tinder
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The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“Be honest. List it on your profile and you will attract the right person. What you put out in to the universe you get back. If you lie about it you won’t like the result.”
“Guys prefer young kids and a lot of them are surprisingly happy rasing someone’s else’s kid.
The guy I’m with, we met on Facebook through my sister. He came home from his job met me and told him, ‘This is my son, he’s my number one, I can’t have anymore.’ Together 2 years engaged 7 months now, and my son just adores him and vice versa. Go for it! You can be happy too, momma!”
“Tinder is a hookup site. It is not a dating site. Do you really want to be bringing strange men into your child’s life.”
“I did it at 3 months, and I was legit not ready. All I did was talk about my kid.”
“I met my current husband on tinder in 2018. I had 2- and 4-year-olds, and so did he. We’ve since gotten married and are now expecting our 5th and final child this coming Friday. Just use common sense and filter out the trash like you would anywhere else.”
“Nothing weird about it.”
“Everyone saying it’s just for hookups clearly hasn’t used the app. There are obviously people there just for hookups and there are obviously people they’re looking for relationships. It’s your choice which one you pursue.”
“Try bumble!! Much safer!”
“I met my man on tinder. I did go on a million dates with guys that weren’t looking for anything real but I made it clear that wasn’t what I was looking for. Then I found him and we’ve been together ever since. Obviously be safe and meet in a public place for first dates but I don’t see anything wrong with it.”
“I did probably around the same time (after baby/ going through a divorce). I met someone great. Just be careful, listen to your head and heart and be honest with what you’re looking for and who you are. If someone doesn’t like it, they aren’t right for you.”
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